Fear, Obligation, Guilt (FOG)


After leaving the Jehovah’s Witness religion, we had the opportunity to read Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward, Ph.D. We could readily identify with the stories she relates in the book and could make a direct correlation to our lives as Jehovah’s Witnesses. While the experiences are somewhat different from what we encountered in our personal lives, we could readily comprehend how individuals use emotional blackmail to make others develop fear, obligation and guilt in order to manipulate them into furthering their own agenda.

This podcast explains in great detail how  Jehovah’s Witnesses live in the FOG. No one can dispute these comments as every current and former Witness is most familiar with the culture of the organization!

This podcast references the experience of a sister that lived in an Iron Lung and her experience was used as a tool to measure the faith of Jehovah’s Witnesses with otherwise good health that did not live up to the daily demands of the Watchtower. You can reference her experience in the January 22, 1993 Awake! magazine “Not Even an Iron Lung Could Stop her Preaching“.


Why is there always a deficit at the Circuit Assemblies of Jehovah’s Witnesses?

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Every Jehovah’s Witness has attended the circuit assembly and remembers the brothers making the announcement from the platform that “we have a deficit” and then starts asking for more donations to cover the cost of the program.

This audio clip goes into detail about why there is always a deficit and the assembly program hasn’t even started yet!


Find New Friends after leaving the Jehovah’s Witnesses


When my husband and I left the Jehovah’s Witness faith, we realized that finding a new clientele of friends was a must. When most individuals leave this religion, it is with great distress because many are being shunned by their family and friends and they literally have no one that they can speak to. Therefore, if you are one of Jehovah’s Witnesses and you are thinking about leaving the organization, it is imperative that you realize those individuals in your circle will completely shut you out of their lives.

We simply connected with people in our business circle. In fact, during the time we left, I was self-employed, and thankfully I had stopped telling people about my religious affiliation. Therefore, I didn’t have to go through the bad experience one finds themselves in when trying to fit in with so-called “worldly” people.

It has been an interesting journey for us, but all-in-all we feel like we did the right thing in our lives by leaving and we have no regrets.



This podcast highlights a few personal experiences during the time I was still one of Jehovah’s Witnesses. It is a true testament that I was determined to work outside of the home. I needed my own self-fulfillment. It gave me something else to do in my life besides be a woman at the Kingdom Hall. I encourage every woman to pursue your dreams, goals and desires and to enjoy your life to the fullest.

Part 5

Jehovah’s Witnesses – Struggles of an Elder’s Wife



Jehovah's Witness Elder's Wife

Just because you are a Jehovah’s Witness woman does not mean you are an idiot unworthy of an opinion or lack business acumen. We compliment our husbands and in many instances we have different skills and abilities that bring together a great team to accomplish great things. As a whole, the Jehovah’s Witness faith does not look at women with any measure of respect when it comes to them being able to speak their mind even when it comes to them being experts in their field.

I never bought into the hype that due to my gender, I was inferior!

My Experiences Part 2 – Struggles of Jehovah’s Witness Women

It is easy to be labeled as speaking against Jehovah if you make an unfavorable comment about anything the Watchtower writers say in their publication. And anyone that does not follow the Watchtower way to its fullest, is always accused of going against God. Accusations for the least common offense is quite popular amongst individuals in the group.

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